Thursday, October 10, 2013

Feminine Strength in Surrender: Being Present, Being a Warrior of Sensuality

A woman watches. A woman is a subtle hunter. The True Temptress is the True Huntress. Did you know thousands of years ago men were not the hunters in society—women were.

the beautiful, powerful Body Scientist Makeda Voletta speaks often about indigenous Women hunters....

Why is this? Women have a unique proclivity towards stillness and surrender to spirit as well as subtle energies. This is why in churches, mosques, and temples, women far outnumber men. Women are more fluid, emotional, and spiritual. The woman’s essence, known across all cultures and tribes, is water—most commonly referred to as yin. The male fire is Yang. Women represent coolness which is the true key to femininity. Allow yourself to receive and give service. [distinguish submission from surrender and service from slavery…e.g. Mary Magdalene]



Presentness, allowing yourself to just Be. That is the true art of femininity.

A man loves a woman just Being. When you’re not worried about being the active (read: HOT, aggressive) energy of performing for a man, trying to get his attention, you are your most womanly self. Don’t worry about whether your hair flips enough or whether your hips sway hard enough to switch—men notice this though they’ll never tell you. As a woman who has always had more male friends than female friends, I’ve gleaned into the secret mind of men. Men look, not for the super booty-jiggling, ground shaking Switch, but for a woman’s natural walk. That “Naomi Campbell Walk” or Beyonce’s Sasha Fierce strut? Wonderful, empowering, yes indeed. But it’s more for show, for exaggeration more for us—other females—really, to remind us of our femininity through hyperfeminine display.

Exaggerration itself is a form of boasting. It too means to “make bigger” and to try to make something bigger or yourself bigger is a masculine aptitude. Notice men always seem to live by the phrase “bigger is better”—bigger cars, bigger buildings, bigger penises, bigger hamburgers….for women the phrase should be “smaller is better” and smaller taken to mean More Humble. Humility and Compassion are women’s true virtues and abilities that men struggle to cultivate while these maternal instincts are in us naturally, automatically. A woman naturally feels no need to boast or scramble for attention with grand gestures—a true woman (proverbs 31) does without asking acknowledgement because a true woman in her true nature, will receive praise from everyone around her. Because a woman is the true glue that holds a relationship, a family, a community, together. She is the one who prays, who dreams, who creates, who cleans, who nourishes through delicious and healing foods, who brings everything in harmony by keeping an organized home and sweeping away demons and negative, stale energies with a sweet song or deep humming.

Back to Being. Have you ever noticed for centuries artists, painters, and photographers have many more pictures of women than men? More than that, artists much more often portray women fluid rather than contrived. This means you’ll more likely find a picture of a woman just sitting, muscles relaxed, staring into a ray of sunlight on a green lawn, or playing with a parasol, or lying—languishing—on a bed of crisp white sheets a la Marilyn Monroe. Men, on the other hand, are depicted in a fantasy scenario of war or fighting or jumping, running, something strenuous, highly active.



Just as a river is not completely still or frozen, a woman is not cold or stagnant. On the contrary a woman is warm, deep, and constantly curving, changing subtly, trickling, bubbling. But the activity of a man to a woman is the difference between a wolf chasing and biting at your heels to a dog gently licking your palm. They are both in motion, acting, but to two very diverse degrees.

The man’s energy is active….activity produces manifestation. The woman’s energy is potential and potentially expanding with appropriate stimulus: hence the sperm’s “activation”, germination, or fertilization of the woman’s egg which [potentially] already carries all the necessary information and encoding necessary for the human being and soul soon to be conceived and birthed.

This is why the white tigress takes that masculine energy into her—first by coyly activating it through her fluid feminine energy—by raising up the man’s sexual energy by keeping him in constant arousal (and, by virtue of her performing oral on him, leaving him free and surrendered where he won’t be performing as he would when moving inside a woman’s yoni) and delaying his gratification by delaying orgasm again and again, giving it more built up power and then directing it upon his orgasmic release into the manifestation of frequency elevation. This is why the white tigress does not “waste” her energy by engaging in intercourse with man—because, by allowing the male to enter her yoni and manipulating it, a complex exchange of energy transpires which still requires an exertion of the woman’s energy and in the wrong hands or the wrong man cause a woman to feel “drained” by the men in her life who use her energy consciously or unconsciously, using her “shining”* [beloved reference and quote]…the white tigress sucks his energy and directs it like a funnel into the universe or within her body to nourish the aura and essentially leave the physical more youthful or vibrant (because, essentially, as one ages, the deterioration of mind and body through the ravages of environment, pollution, and stress, manifest in wrinkles or sagging or even memory lapses and the like—all of this comes essentially from years of energy drainage and lack of circulation of electricity or ashe that is vital to our physical form and mirrors the lack of spiritual electricity in our auric bodies and the increased dulling of our glowing, our light which is the higher frequency of love. [again Beloved’s shining and Oshun’s gold…alchemy of the “old man” to the “spirit man” of white light or the “heart of gold”…white gold, etherium gold]

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Scandal, Red Letter Day, and Scarlet Women, Scarlet Letters

Indecency is a thing of measure, a thing of relativity, as is scandal. The sacred and profane are no one’s to define or distinguish. There are such things as violations of energetic laws, rather than Laws of Man or even Laws of God; there are transgressions of universal laws, such as Gravity. Many wish to fly and never to fall.



Transgressors are those who would take a life in its abundance of energy, breath and blood, and would dare to believe their own life will not someday surely be taken in kind. Some talk about “sin”, when it is in actuality one’s refusal in any given moment to be controlled or dominated by fear— fear of a deception given the name God, fear of an authoritative system or tyrannical government, or fear of loss of one’s own control. Self Accountability is the highest Grace, and that is one’s Salvation. Salvation comes when one does not harm another or themselves, when one truly Loves another as well as Oneself, not because they fear the illusion of a hell or external punishment but because they cultivate the God of Compassion and the Nurturing Mother of Nature within themselves.



Salvation is not found groveling as a slave at the feet of a butcher, grotesquely spilling His alleged Son’s blood over masses of the unthinking, the unquestioning. Salvation instead is found in the bosom of the Mother within that crowns us all with royalty, showing us the mirror that reflects our most glorious selves and sweetly admonishes not to shed the blood of any, because the bloodshed of one’s brother is one’s own bloodshed. True Life-Giving Spirituality is found where a Mother comforts and reassures us we are beautiful and powerful; True damnation-dealing Religion is found cowering before a sadistic, castrated and vehement “father” that curses us and makes us believe we are dirty, guilty, and weak.

You got me Wide Open....

"Sweet Love/got me callin' out your name/ and I feel no shame..."
--Anita Baker


Being a mother, there's alot I learn from my children, lessons of reflection in which a mother recognizes her misdeeds through her children. When we were young our mothers would say "aight now, your child's gon end up being that way with you"...and we didn't believe it. Ha ha.

Also lessons of freedom--ecstasy at just one's toes being touched, boundless laughter incited by the wiggling of a nose, waking up smiling every morning for no particular reason, not caring or worrying about anything, immediately and contentedly adaptable, completely without judgement. If my child does not shame me, what makes me think my ancestors are ashamed of me? Live your life in ways that make your children proud and your ancestors will be proud.

Children teach us a great deal of things about fearlessness: Yesterday I watched my adventurous, acrobatic, always laughing daughter fall off the bed. She cried more out of being startled at the actual fall than really hurt by it. After I smiled at her, she smiled back as if she’d never been hurt.

Our hearts must be just as the child: open, without fear or expectation of hurt. We must Love as if we’ve never been hurt before, treat each new person we meet by the virtue of their first impression, not making assumptions based on what other people did or how they behaved previously. Jesus implores us in the Bible to be “child-like”. This, mind you, is not to be understood, interpreted, or considered the same as childish, rather trusting, open, loving, as children are. The Heart Open to Love again and again, no matter how much it has beeen hurt or how many times stabbed, this is the true Mystery of Christ's and Mary's Sacred Heart burning.



Babies, with their fatty, flexible, pliable bodies, surprisingly are proven get hurt less because they don’t expect to. Simple as that. As human, the more we grow “older”, the more we program ourselves to fear: meaning, as we get older, because we have felt the pain of getting a scraped knee or the sting of a slap, we build up more body armoring (see: Kinsey and Dr. Wilhelm Reich) subconsciously that causes us to withdraw to ever so miniscule degrees. A baby, fresh into the world, we must remember, has never felt anything before. Everything is new. Every sensation is its first time. So babies do not expect to fall, they don’t expect to be rejected, to fail, they never expect you to drop them or hurt them.



When you expect a blow or a sensation of pain, you tense up automatically. Psychological studies have proven that many times the mind sends messages to the body of sensations of pain before a person actually comes into contact with the object supposed to hurt it! Did you know the brain may trick you into feeling the prick of a needle at the doctor’s office before it even breaks the skin, especially if you are particularly and obsessively terrified by it? It is the same even for many women during sex who have been abused, molested, and had rough, painful intercourse with men before: their bodies and wombs clench up and body amouring occurs wherein orgasm and healing is never achieved. If we relax and be open, that is the child-like way to find Ecstasy. There are many love songs that proclaim “Girl, you got me open” “boy, my nose wide open”…..notice these terms describe that sense of letting go that is so fundamental to Oshun’s Love and Her flowing, watery, feminine nature. Being Open is so vital, opening up to achieve orgasm, that many tantric teachers admonish men to massage a woman for hours before intercourse just to loosen the muscles from literally years of unconscious, unacknowledged tension all over the body and in the womb.


When women come into sexual union with their Divine Mates, if he is truly your King-Man to respect and honor you and understands your history of abuse, ladies be not afraid to open yourself to him completely like the blooming flower. That’s the thing: true sex and orgasm is made Divine between two REAL, trusting partners in a state of Heart-led connecting and understanding. However, most men and women these days engage in casual sex with strangers they can’t trust and therefore cheat themselves. When you find a man that is worthy and has shown you true affection and you know after time tried and tested that you can trust him, that is the time you will be ready to engage in Sacred Lovemaking with him and not a moment before. SO many women rush into sharing their bodies with vultures, swine, dogs, and vampires of men who drain and degrade them without taking the time to know them. Women must realize it is okay to be alone, it is even okay to explore your own body alone in Ecstatic Self-Pleasure until you have properly found and tested the Right Mate. Don’t feel so “horny” or so anxious for sex that you say “girl, I just got to have it” and just go out and give it up to the first man that winks your way. Pamper and love YOURSELF even if it is weeks or months you may be getting to know a gentleman. Perform your sacred bath rituals, meditations, orgasmic yoga, self touch and self massage rituals, or go out to a spa, go shopping, all of the things that make you feel like the Queen you are with no one else around. While you have been busy giving all this love to yourself, you have also shown the man you are getting to know how much you are worth and how much love you deserve. Then, after patience, you can comfortably and openly trust him to engage in Sacred Lovemaking when he has finally shown himself worthy through courtship and you have gotten to know your own body enough to know how to teach him what pleases you. And you can be sure that when you finally do Open to him, you will have that fullness of child-like, Open Love that will enable you to trust him just as if no man had ever hurt you before.

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